Here’s a post that gets under the doctrinaire, kneejerk brain-cramp afflicting so many, so called progressives of all stripes:
An Open Letter to the Radical Feminists
Re: Please stop degrading me and others of my ilk.
I am allowed to call you that, yes? In any event, I would like to formerly request that as we are all part of the female half of the human species that you cease and desist in treating me and others like me as if we were something less than human. I would appreciate it greatly if you stopped assuming on one hand that I am unable of making my own choices, overly victimized, and deluded, or on the other, unconcerned with women in the sex industry who do not wish to be there, a greedy, ruthless whore, or a man pretending to be a woman.
I realize you all have your studies and statistics and stories, your reasons for feeling the way you do and believing what you do. I do as well. And I do firmly believe that my truth is no more valid than your own, yet the reverse is also true. I’ve not been raped, abused, or forced into anything by anyone. Economically, I am probably better off than a great many people in “normal fields”. I have the luxury of being able to pick and choose what I do and with whom. I am fortunate in that aspect. I also am not the type of sex worker, in any aspect of the field (stripping, nude modeling, porn, escorting, any of it) that ends up in your studies and statistics, because one: people like me do not produce the desired results, and two: though I pay taxes and play everything very safe, the last thing I want is legal trouble. There are more women out there doing sex work who are “in my boat” than you think, women who are college educated or using sex work as a means to pay for their higher education, women who are in various aspects of this business who have stable, loving relationships and do not desperately need the money, women who see sex and not an act of intimacy but as a purely biological function that can be sold just like the skills of a personal trainer or massage therapist. We’ve made a conscious decision, as adults, to do what we do. Trust me, I put a lot of thought into my career choice, and I did so logically.